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This blog is written by Rami Beracha on the venture capital world. Rami is also Co-Founder of Sosa.

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The issue of miscommunication is very serious. It’s a minefield that we’ve made. It starts a second after the initial contact is made with another person, and concludes with a massive explosion…

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The biggest mistake we make is that we assume total agreement in our expectations but never bother to comprehend our partner’s expectations. We’re usually fully in agreement with our partner except for one aspect : he doesn’t miss an opportunity to widen this expectation gap . There isn’t anyone in the world who can warn us of the coming clash.

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There are a variety of reasons for miscommunications. They’re usually due to our individual personalities. People who are squared are more likely than those with liberal personalities to miscommunicate, and individuals who are aggressive may have difficulty getting their expectations in line with passive. It is simple to identify and everyone is aware of that they are squared from the liberal, and passive from the aggressive.

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What if they’re completely different? They’ll not realize that. It’s possible that there exists a gap in their personalities that we aren’t aware of. It’s not something anyone has investigated or warned about, nor discovered. !

Ladies and gentlemen let me introduce you all to an entirely different kind of personality: The FULL versus the Half Circle personalities! !

Note: A behavioral guideline – when you read the following analysis, try to figure out which one of the two personalities define you the best, and also attempt to determine who your partner in life is. If you find that you’re distinct personalities – just like Bono sings, “we can be one however we are not the same”, – you should be very happy as you may have discovered the cause of the differences between you. If you’re the opposite type I’m sorry to not help you understand the reasons your relationships look like crap.

Here we go…

Two groups of humans can be classified as human. There are two kinds of humans: the ‘full circle’ type, who is totally self-contained and is completely comfortable being by themselves. Sure, he requires partners, yes, there is a need for a partner and yes, he’s on a perpetual search of a partner. Absolutely! It’s all true … However, he will not be able survive without a suitable partner. He will continue to live his life side by side with his new partner once he finds one.

The other side of humanity is made up of “half-a-circle” types – (no it’s not full circles that were damaged during the delivery) The other side of humanity is comprised of the “half-a-circle” types … It’s true they are in need of an accomplice, yes, they want a partner badly, yes, they’re constantly, almost religious, search for a new partner… and , yes, it’s on the same scale as matters of national security that they find their partner because they just cannot survive without one. They are not going to let go of the miserable creature after they have found it. They will work to physically integrate their victim into a happy circle. They will not compromise their desire to be capable of looking at each others for the rest of their lives. Their desire to merge with their spouse and form a unit will only be satisfied by things that aren’t as intimate.

The decision to let go is a common observation. The whole circle will typically be the first to let go of a companion who has lost his chemistry quickly. The half-circle’s on the other hand will redefine the concept of ‘having chemistry’ with their partners to mean: ‘I’m holding on to this B..ST..RD. until I can replace him correctly’.

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Imagine the incredible dance that occurs when a “half a-circle” and a “full-circle”, are trying to compete without being aware of their differing geometries. The Half is smiling and takes two steps in the direction of. The Full finds this unwanted invasion a bit scary. So he fixes this zone-invasion-problem by making a gentle step backward. The issue is that he took half of his comfortable zone …. and as the Half was convinced that the Full made an error that was innocent, the Half begins getting angry and takes a step backward. Both are aware of the reason, but they lack proper terminology. They aren’t able to properly express their anguish so they look for the wrong thing. If they had known that one of them is a Half and the other one is Full, it could have saved their lives …

While this article isn’t intended to provide a complete list of guidelines, there are steps you could take.

1. Find out who you are.

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2. Find out more about your partner

3. Recognize that there’s a significant distinction.

3. Respect this distinction!

Let’s just say that there is only one conclusion: Live and let be.