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Rami Beracha blogs about the venture capital world. Rami is the Co-Founder of Sosa.

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It’s a major issue when people misunderstand. I would dare say that it’s a dangerous hazard that we created .. It is triggered just a second after coming into contact with someone and culminates in an astonishing explosion…

The biggest error we make is to think that we’re completely in sync in our expectations for each other without trying to figure out what our partner’s expectations are of us. There is however one thing we can almost always are in agreement on: he won’t miss the chance ….to widen the expectation gap. We don’t require anyone to alert us of the upcoming conflict.

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There are a variety of reasons for communication issues, but they are generally related to our different personalities. Square personalities are more likely not to communicate well with liberal people. Aggressive personalities may struggle to align their expectations with passive people. But this is easy to identify – we all know that liberal is squared, and aggressive from passive.

What if they’re very different? Only they won’t realize that. Imagine the personality gap. Nobody has ever noticed it and warned others about it, studied it…NOT REFUSE! !

Ladies and gentlemen! Let me introduce you to a new personality one that we all share. The FULL CIRCLE personalities are different from the HALF CLIRCLE personalities. !

This analysis offers guidelines for behavior. Try to figure the personality that best defines what you’re like, and then try to find out who your partner is. If you find out that you belong to two different types, as Bono says “we’re one but we’re not alike”, then you should be content. It is possible that you have discovered the root-cause of some of the differences in your life! If, however, you are identical in your appearance and you’re both of the same type, then I’m unable to explain the reasons why your relationships look awful.

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Here we go…

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Two distinct groups of people can be described as being human. Certain of us are ‘full-circle’ types, a self-contained person that finds it easy to be completely by themselves. He’s in need of a partner. Absolutely! It is all true … But, he will not be able to live without his dream companion until he locates one. Once he has found his dream partner, he wants to share his life with his hopefully complete circle – partner.

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The “half-a circle” kind is the opposite side of humanity. (No this isn’t a full-circle , but it was damaged during delivery). When they find the grumpy creature that they have found, they will not let go of it. To form a joyful circle, they almost integrate with their victim… but don’t let them do this thing of living side by side! The Halves will not compromise on anything less than staring one at the other from a zero distance throughout their lives. Their desire to become one with their partner and create a whole will only be fulfilled by an intimate relationship.

An interesting distinction between the two types relates to the choice to let go of a partner. The full circle is likely to be able to let go of the person he has lost chemistry with. Half-circles on the other hand will redefine the notion of having chemistry’ with their partners to be: ‘I’m hanging onto this B..ST..RD. until I can replace him properly’.

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Imagine the amazing dance that occurs when the “half” and “full” circle try to force each other to become their partner. They’re not aware of their differences. The Half takes two leaps forward, far beyond the comfort zone of his Full, who considers the abrupt invasion of his personal space a little too frightening. So he fixes this zone-invasion-problem by making a gentle step backward. He pushed the Half out of his comfortable zone . While the Half assumes that the Full made an innocent mistake, and was kind enough to compensate by taking a second step forward, the Half gets more concerned and begins to get angry. They know why but for the lack of proper language they are unable to adequately explain their plight and turn towards the wrong directions! They could have saved their lives by knowing that one half and the other is Full.

Although this essay is not meant to be a complete list of guidelines, there are steps you can take.

1. Find out who you are

2. Find out more about your partner

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3. There is a distinction.

3. Respect the distinction!

One conclusion could be drawn”Live and let live.